@taylorlorenz They're really very cheap to run
That means it doesn't cost that much to start your own, if the available servers don't work for you
(this is not true for ATProto)
And you don't have to do it alone. Those other servers have actual people running them, who you can just talk to. It's not like trying to get the attention of a Facebook moderator. When you and another moderator follow each other, you just talk, and if you like the way they run their server, any user of either server can do the same.