I am not autistic - at least, as far as I know - but I am good friends with someone who is, and our friendship has now lasted for 13 years (which she frequently notes "is a rarity").
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I am not autistic - at least, as far as I know - but I am good friends with someone who is, and our friendship has now lasted for 13 years (which she frequently notes "is a rarity").
I have learned a lot from her - among other things, that I should check my assumptions on how the world "should" be navigated at the door. While we have common ground, there are also a lot of differences in what is and what is not easy to do for either of us.
I can tell her what _I_ do in any given situation, and she has found that useful often enough (for instance, I am regularly sharing copies of my grocery store receipts with her, which is apparently very helpful with her own food and budget planning), but I have learned to refrain from suggesting that she should do things the same way as I do.
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I am not autistic - at least, as far as I know - but I am good friends with someone who is, and our friendship has now lasted for 13 years (which she frequently notes "is a rarity").
I have learned a lot from her - among other things, that I should check my assumptions on how the world "should" be navigated at the door. While we have common ground, there are also a lot of differences in what is and what is not easy to do for either of us.
I can tell her what _I_ do in any given situation, and she has found that useful often enough (for instance, I am regularly sharing copies of my grocery store receipts with her, which is apparently very helpful with her own food and budget planning), but I have learned to refrain from suggesting that she should do things the same way as I do.
@juergen_hubert You sound like a very good friend
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@juergen_hubert You sound like a very good friend
I try to be, and she keeps on telling me that. But her friendship also has taught me a lot - it's always useful to exchange ideas with people with different backgrounds.
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I am not autistic - at least, as far as I know - but I am good friends with someone who is, and our friendship has now lasted for 13 years (which she frequently notes "is a rarity").
I have learned a lot from her - among other things, that I should check my assumptions on how the world "should" be navigated at the door. While we have common ground, there are also a lot of differences in what is and what is not easy to do for either of us.
I can tell her what _I_ do in any given situation, and she has found that useful often enough (for instance, I am regularly sharing copies of my grocery store receipts with her, which is apparently very helpful with her own food and budget planning), but I have learned to refrain from suggesting that she should do things the same way as I do.
@juergen_hubert Ahh you'll get there
For 50 years I thought there was no way I could be autistic, but when mentioning my level 2 autistic son in therapy the therapist looked at me and said "have you ever thought about your own autistic traits?"When I came back the next time I thanked her for the weeks of revelations I'd just had, when sooo many things throughout my life suddenly got their explanations.
(Being GenX and thus forced to learn how to mask well I would never be able to get diagnosed, so no actually-tag here though)
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@juergen_hubert Ahh you'll get there
For 50 years I thought there was no way I could be autistic, but when mentioning my level 2 autistic son in therapy the therapist looked at me and said "have you ever thought about your own autistic traits?"When I came back the next time I thanked her for the weeks of revelations I'd just had, when sooo many things throughout my life suddenly got their explanations.
(Being GenX and thus forced to learn how to mask well I would never be able to get diagnosed, so no actually-tag here though)
I'm not ruling it out, but I just seem to have the indicators that she has. I have no problems with sensory overload, I don't do stimming, and so forth.
